Positive and Confident

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Confidence

It would seem natural to present your writing in a positive manner but it’s often hard to do.  Sometimes it can be easier to shrink away, to be shy or introverted, and other times quite difficult not to be self-effacing, apologetic or too polite.  Regardless of what you’re offering, present a positive attitude to the world.  I don’t mean a pushy pitch or aggressive behaviour, and it’s usually of no benefit to be bold to the point of belligerence, but tell yourself to be positive and you will be met with a greater degree of interest.

Just as my Grandma used to say “Don’t hide your light under a bushel”, and school teachers cajoled us to “smarten that attitude”, the following example of loss-and-gain is what I observed one Saturday morning at my local shopping centre.

It was Fundraising Week for a local youth group and they were selling sweet biscuits.  Their traditional biscuits are round, flat and stamped with an insignia.  This time they were also offering chocolate chip, shortbread, gluten free, etc, and the stall outside the supermarket was groaning with packets of enticing treats.  The girls were in their uniforms, with neat hair and shiny faces.  They proudly showed me the products on sale, offered me a sample and told me the pricing.  It was such a pleasant encounter that I purchased several packets.

As I walked back to my car, I turned a corner and nearly bumped into more members of the group selling the same biscuits.  They had the packets of biscuits on the flagstones and were standing with arms by their sides, eyes down, embarrassed by the shoppers walking past.  No display, no smiles, no attempt to present themselves or their product in a good light.  I think one shopper took pity and bought a packet, telling the girls to keep the change.  The response was mumbled.  Too late, a group leader came along as I was leaving.

Naturally I don’t expect everyone to be a salesperson, I understand those girls were daunted by the prospect, finding themselves in a situation outside their comfort zone.  Nevertheless, they needed a positive-outlook boost because they represented an organisation, whereas writing is a personal extension of you – but surely it’s the same?  You write for a reason, get it out there, let it go!

In my experience, being positive about your work brings confidence along for the ride.

Gretchen Bernet-Ward

Gretchen Rubin says…

“What I do for my work is exactly what I would do if nobody paid me”…

Gretchen Rubin is an American author, blogger and speaker and has written several books including “The Happiness Project”, “Happier At Home” and “Better Than Before”.

The only thing Gretchen Rubin and I have in common is our first name.  When I was growing up, my name was a burden among all the Anglo-Saxon children during my school years.  I was never ashamed of my first name, just upset with people when they couldn’t come to grips with it, and I didn’t understand why people had so much trouble pronouncing it.  Now, thanks to the global village, it’s a cinch.

As for working, I’ve always worked for financial reasons and if the job was a good one that was a bonus.  From insurance, travel, advertising, promotions, administration and library positions, I am now at the stage where I am free to pursue my writing career.  I can sit and pound away on the keyboard to my heart’s content and nobody pays me.

Gretchen Bernet-Ward

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Hard Work

Elements of Literary Life

A humorous periodic table illustrating the highs and lows of a writer’s life.  Word choices and re-writing seem to be part of it but if you are a genius with talent, you’ve got it made!  I’ll stick with the hard work and dream my dreams.

Gretchen Bernet-Ward

Periodic Table of Elements of Literary Life
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